How Not to Be a Workplace Jerk: A Guide for Humans
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By Lindsay Bissett
“Don’t you worry your pretty little mind; people throw rocks at things that shine.” -Taylor Swift
Let’s start by saying that jerks exist. It’s likely they will always exist, but we don’t have to accept their jerkiness, and if someone is being a jerk they always have the opportunity to change their behaviour.
Maintaining a respectful and inclusive workplace culture is essential for fostering productivity, creativity, and employee satisfaction. Yet, we’ve all encountered that one (or more) person who seems to excel in the art of workplace jerkiness. Whether it’s the micromanaging boss, the gossiping colleague, or the insensitive remark-maker, their behavior can create a toxic environment that stifles growth and collaboration.
And let’s be honest, there are likely even times when each of us have been a bit, shall we say, jerky ourselves. But who do you want to be? The one throwing the rocks, as Taylor sings, or the one shining? For me, the answer is easy. And sparkly.
Becoming a workplace glimmer instead of a workplace jerk is entirely achievable with a few simple strategies. Let’s explore how we can navigate workplace dynamics with grace, humor, and an equity lens.
Empathy and Relationship Building, Not Micromanagement:
Rather than breathing down your employees’ necks, trust them to do their jobs effectively. Trust can be hard, particularly early in relationships, but repairing a crumbling team culture is harder. Empower employees with the resources and support they need to succeed, and then step back and let them shine.
Remember, everyone has their own unique strengths and challenges. Take the time to understand your employees’ individual circumstances and offer flexibility when appropriate. A little empathy can go a long way in building trust and morale, so can positive reinforcement.
Choose Words Wisely:
Words have power, and in the workplace, they can either uplift or tear down. Avoid making offhand comments or jokes that could be construed as offensive or hurtful, even if they’re meant in jest. Not sure if your remark will be taken as a joke or not, probably best to keep it to yourself. Reminder, microaggressions are very real, and their impact is anything but micro.
Embrace inclusive language that respects everyone’s identity and experiences. Avoid assumptions based on gender, race, religion, or any other characteristic. When in doubt, err on the side of sensitivity and respect.
Combat Gossip with Kindness:
Gossip has no place in a professional environment. Full stop. It’s one thing to talk about recent red carpet looks, it’s entirely another to talk about colleagues looks, choices and behaviours. Instead of participating in or perpetuating rumors, strive to foster a culture of open communication and mutual respect.
If you find yourself on the receiving end of workplace gossip, politely redirect the conversation or excuse yourself from the discussion. There can be magic in subtlety.
Combatting workplace gossip sounds challenging and uncomfortable? That’s ok, it can be without practice. Monster has tips on how to successfully shut down or excuse yourself when in a workplace gossip scenario.
Be a Champion for Equity and Inclusion:
Continually working to create an equitable, evolving workplace environment is a solid general practice when to comes to building a thriving workplace. Take proactive steps to ensure that your workplace is a safe and welcoming space for everyone. Advocate for diversity in hiring practices, representation in leadership roles, and equitable treatment of all employees.
Challenge discriminatory (and jerky) behaviors or practices when you encounter them, and support initiatives that promote diversity, equity, and inclusion within your organization. Remember, creating a truly inclusive workplace requires ongoing effort and commitment from everyone.
Lead with Humility and Integrity:
As a leader, your actions set the tone for the entire organization. Lead by example by demonstrating humility, integrity, and accountability in all that you do.
Admit when you’re wrong, apologize when necessary, and strive to learn and grow from your mistakes. By showing vulnerability and a willingness to course-correct, you’ll earn the respect and trust of your team members.
Do not shy away from difficult conversations with difficult people. One jerk can create a vast ripple effect, particularly if the jerky behaviours are left unaddressed.
Simply put, being a workplace jerk is a choice. But so is leaving workplace jerks unchecked in their antics. Being a workplace glimmer and creating a space where people are free to shine their own unique light is also a choice. Let’s raise the bar together and strive to be the kind of colleagues and leaders that we would want to work with ourselves. After all, life’s too short to be a jerk!
P.S. Want to learn more about Leda HR workshops for leaders and employees that support a respectful, inclusive workplace culture that fosters prioritizes psychological safety and belonging? Reach out today!
Lindsay Bissett
Lindsay is a human resources consultant who blends expertise with a passion for social media and mental health advocacy. She has extensive experience in equitable HR practices and fostering positive employee relations. A wife and mother of two, Lindsay delights in kitchen dance parties and glamping under the stars.